[When your child is invited to a party ] [ A parent's checklist ]

• Suggest changes if necessary, but try to be tactful. Set specific beginning and ending times for the party.

• Check your child’s guest list and party plans.

• Consider daytime parties as alternatives to nighttime parties Provide a theme or activity: skating, swimming, renting a movie, bowling, etc.

• Set ground rules that are clearly understood by both you and your child in advance.
  These include:

• No alcohol or drugs -- remember it is illegal to serve alcohol or other drugs to minors, even in a private home.

• Parents are legally responsible.

• No smoking.

• No leaving the party and then returning.

• Limit the party to certain areas of your house.

• Leave the lights on.

• Try to reconcile your child’s plan for the party with your own standards. Don’t compromise your standards, but be understanding of your child’s feelings.